Greetings again bloggers!
Last week and this week I have embarked on the journey of many broke millennials, the fabled stay-cation. This mythical journey is where you take time off of work because you’re so tired the wheels are about to fall off, and yet with a pair of twin children the prospect of leaving for somewhere else sounds like more work than actually working.
I have been doing my very best to balance three things on this stay-cation, and they are a difficult three things to balance I must admit:
Time with my family. I am intimately aware that my job as a youth pastor robs me of time with my family, and robs them of my presence. Many are the nights that I have a meeting, or a trip, or an event, or just extra work, and I don’t get to tuck my boys in to bed. This is bad news for them to be sure, but it’s also bad news for me as I have really grown quite fond of my family. So I have been trying to spend as much time as I can with the boys and with Sarah.
Time for me. I also need to relax and breathe a little bit, so I’ve been trying to sneak in a few things like time at a coffee shop to write, bike rides, and even a solo trip to the movies. There’s no sense in coming back to work next week if I’m worn out and out of energy, so I’m doing these things to recharge.
Fix up the house. We have owned our house in Bethel Park for about 5 years now, and over the course of that time some projects have begun to pile up on us. Most of these are just little things, weeding and cleaning the garage, but a few have been sort of big home improvement projects that needed to be taken care of. I’ve crossed a good bit off my list already, and I’m excited to see what comes next week!
Balance in life is a really hard thing. It’s a buzz word that we all seem to be looking for. We want to find the right work/life balance. We try to balance our priorities with those of the company. We balance our political views against what we want to get yelled at for on twitter. Balance is hard.
For all the talk of balance in the world, I actually think the better word is intentionality. So often I think what folks are looking for when they’re talking about balance is to stop what happens in life haphazardly. As someone who works a 50+ hour work week, if you are not intentional about your work time of course you will fall out of balance with your family. If you are not careful and measured about the projects that matter to you, to name the priorities you have at work, of course you will fall out of balance with your employer. If you want balance in life, I think what you really want is to be intentional.
When I think intentional, I think about writing. I have a calendar that syncs between my computer and my phone, and I joke with people all the time that if it isn’t on my calendar it doesn’t happen. Except that’s not really a joke so much as it is a reality. If I say I’m going to be at a meeting, I need to write it down. In my backpack right now is a notebook I use for work, and on the first two pages I have hand written out my priorities and values. I need to write those down and name them, so that the intentionality will follow everything else I do.
What could you be more intentional about this week? Where is there room for growth there for you?